10 Signs A Girl Could Be Using You
Are you having second thoughts about the girl you’re dating and feeling quite strongly about? Specifically, are you wondering if she’s using you?
If so, browse the following signs you could be hooked up with a user and extricate yourself. Life’s too short to spend it pursuing women who want you for the wrong reasons.
10 Ways Indicating a Girl Might Be Using You
- Think about your status and her desire for status
- Keep an eye out for lots of needy calls
- Is she there when you need her?
- Does she ever offer to pay?
- Does it seem like she only likes the best things in life?
- Are you getting sluggish replies?
- Consider whether there’s much affection outside the bedroom
- Is she behaving more like a friend than a lover?
- She might appear confused about the relationship
- Do you have a feeling something feels off?
1) Think about your status and her desire for status
Before anything else, take a few minutes to think about your status.
- Your income
- Your cash flow
- Your home
- Your job
Do these areas of your life naturally attract females?
As an example, if you’re an actor with a few mill banked and upscale homes all over, it goes unsaid that most women would find the prestige, money, and fame attractive.
Dial that back some and imagine you earn a solid six-figure income with a small property portfolio. You might not think of yourself as wealthy, but you’ll still be out-earning Joe Blow and seem like quite a catch.
When your status is high, you’ll need to be warier of people and their motives in general. If your lifestyle is more like the second example, ask yourself if you feel it’s your money and lifestyle attracting women hoping to take advantage.
2) Keep an eye out for lots of needy comms
Think about the phone calls and messages you’re receiving from this girl. Does she always want or need something?
Relationships should be about give and take. If the new woman in your life seems to be always taking, you might need to take stock.
Beyond this, you could be dumped firmly in the friendzone along with several other chumps falling for the same trick and being used.
Assess the situation carefully as all relationships are different. The key is to spend some time actually thinking – hard in today’s hectic world, we know – and then to make your own mind up as to whether this girl is trying to pull a fast one or simply from a generation that expects the male to roll up his sleeves and get on with things rather than complaining.
3) Is she there when you need her?
Flip the above on its head and ask yourself whether the girl in question is there for you when you need her.
We’re not suggesting here that you should continuously be hitting a female up for help. How about when you come home from a raw day at work and need some TLC?
Unless this woman has your back when it counts, you’re better off looking elsewhere for true love. A one-sided relationship seldom ends up in blissful harmony.
4) Does she ever offer to pay?
Now, for this next point, neither your financial situation nor hers is especially relevant…
Regardless of income, ask if she EVER offers to pay.
What counts here is the gesture. If a girl simply expects you to foot the bill at all times from the onset, this should give you an insight into how things will pan out.
5) Does it seem like she only likes the best things in life?
This pointer is linked to the opening idea of status.
Is the girl you’re with only interested in that cool restaurant reservation, the latest clubs, or flying First to London in the summer?
How does she react if you suggest some Netflix or heading to a regular local bar?
Essentially, think about whether this girl wants to spend time with you, or whether she’s just looking for the better things in life even if she can’t afford them herself. Only you will know the answer to this.
6) Are you getting sluggish replies?
Whatever the channel of communication, if she’s slow to reply, she probably isn’t that interested.
7) Consider whether there’s much affection outside the bedroom
Assuming that all’s good between the sheets, examine how much affection there is between you outside the bedroom.
Do you hold hands walking when you’re walking down the street?
If you notice an absence of physical contact and affection when you’re not in bed, have a long, hard think about the relationship and where it’s going. It could be more transactional than you think.
8) Is she behaving more like a friend than a lover?
If the girl you’re with is all giggles and cuddles one minute while you’re making plans for the coming months but then pulling away the next moment?
Are you hearing the words, “I’m really not sure I’m ready…”
If so, it could be true. Think about whether she’s just exiting a relationship, ask her what her reasons are for this reluctance.
Conclude that she is acting like a friend while wanting the benefits of a lover, though, and you should run a mile.
9) She might appear confused about the relationship
If she doesn’t appear confident that you’re an item, she probably isn’t.
When a girl appears confused about your relationship, this might be a sign she is using you. This could be using you to get over a previous relationship, or stringing you along when she just isn’t that interested.
So, unless she is into someone else, there really shouldn’t be any confusion. Address this one way or the other, or you’re likely to regret it in the long haul.
10) Do you have a feeling something seems off?
Last but not least, if you have a feeling that something isn’t right and that you’re being used, it’s quite likely to be the case.
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