Have you always struggled to approach women you’re attracted to?
Do you feel awkward striking up a conversation with a woman?
If so, perhaps you’re wondering how you impress a woman with words and make her think about you?
Today, you’re going to learn a simple self-confidence trick that will make a woman want to talk and make her think about you when you’re not around.
Most men think that they should kick-off the talking process.
The truth is, if you want to know how to approach a woman with true confidence, you need to approach things slightly differently.
You see, women should start the talking process, too.
So many men go wrong right here. True confidence comes when a man is OK with silence, and he’s quite happy for the woman to assume control. He doesn’t need to fill silence, he’s comfortable and confident in his posture and body language.
Be OK with Silence
Rather than overthinking how you’re going to start a topic, why not try staying silent every now and then?
You don’t have to impress a woman. Indeed, if you’re trying too hard, this will seem obvious. Women are attracted to a man with confidence, a man that shows up for himself.
If you’ve spent some time talking to a woman and you’ve asked her a few questions, you have the opportunity to gauge whether she’s interested. Just be silent for a while and don’t feel you need to fill the silence. If she’s reciprocating there’s no point in continuing. If she’s not debating back and asking you questions in return you shouldn’t feel like you need to work to get her interested.
This is a lady who won’t text you back, or will use you and not appreciate your true worth.
Let Her Do The Work
There are many ladies out there who want to find a man and appreciate his worth, so don’t go wasting your time on someone who doesn’t match the energy you’re giving out.
A true turn-on for women is a man who can lean back in his chair in total silence with a “Talk to me” attitude. You’ll find so much empowerment in just sitting respectfully in silence. This approach will get you much further than leaning in towards her and rapid fire questioning her.
You can start off with some small talk like, “What do you do for a living?” or “Do you like it here?” Then, just stop talking, lean back, and wait for her to start talking.
See, with this approach there’s no overthinking, you get her talking and she will like that you are demonstrably interested in what she has to say and what she thinks.
Remember, there’s no reason why you should try to impress this woman – she needs to impress you, too.
Give her something to work for. When a woman is challenged and has to work for something, she’s intrigued.
If She’s Not Reciprocating…
A conversation should be like a tennis match, and the responses between you should be 50/50.
That said, if she doesn’t start talking more when you go silent, you can come out and ask her outright, “Are you shy?”
She might respond, “No, why?”
You could say, “You haven’t asked me anything.”
This challenges her and pushes her to respond. Women like to be challenged by a man as it shows assertiveness and confidence. This is also a great way to work out whether she is interested or not and if she is this will get you out of the friend zone.
If You’re An Introvert
If you’re introverted, you might be surprised to learn that many women find introverts attractive. Quiet men have a humbleness which is very attractive, and men who are not overly talkative tend to be driven and dependable.
Introverted men can use their quietness to their advantage when talking to a woman. You should always give a woman something to work for.
Don’t Try Too Hard
Remember, it’s all about that quiet confidence. The confidence to sit comfortably and to embrace silence rather than trying to senselessly fill it. When you’re confident in your own skin, you don’t feel the need to fill any awkward silence. Go ahead, show the woman of your dreams how comfortable you are with yourself.
Don’t try to impress. Don’t ask millions of questions if she isn’t reciprocating. If you try to impress her, you will put yourself under pressure and she will pick up on it straight away. This is a first-class turn off for most women. You want to be a turn-on not a turn off! So, get yourself in the right frame of mind and remember, if she’s worth it, she needs to impress you.
Before you go, don’t forget to bookmark Boompi and come back soon for more bite-sized dating advice.